"Don't tell the wife" - an outdated trope

[FourNinesFine]

There are lots of the "Don't tell my wife" types of tropes that tend to spring up around any hobby / passtime that involves spending money.

I feel they can 'tarnish' the reputation of stacking / collecting / investing as an activity - making it out as something that can't be enjoyed and explored together; but it also cheapens the relationships themselves. It's the same as the welcome mats and door signs designed for Amazon and UPS deliveries... "Hide packages from husband."  Surely, we can do better?

 

Anyway, in completely unrelated news, I had my first experience of an online Precious Metals auction today. For God's sake, don't tell the wife!!

😂

[Captinjack]

In the same vein, my Mrs asked me yesterday what she could do with the metals if any thing happened to me,so I had to explain in layman's terms,now I have to sleep with one eye open and check the car before I use it 🤣

[FourNinesFine]

16 minutes ago, Captinjack said:

In the same vein, my Mrs asked me yesterday what she could do with the metals if any thing happened to me,so I had to explain in layman's terms,now I have to sleep with one eye open and check the car before I use it 🤣

Wait till she finds out you lost it all on that boating trip...

[trozau]

The wife prefers me accumulating PM coins rather than guns and knives. I tell her that I need the guns and knives to safeguard my PM coin collection. 😎

[PhilOdgny]

The saying "Happy wife, happy life" is incorrect.  It should be "No wife, happy life" IMHO.

If how you spend YOUR money is determined by how much it might affect your day to day relationship with someone then I strongly suggest you reconsider that relationship or, alternatively, reconsider how open you are with that person about you spending habits.  The latter approach is particularly useful, I hear, for when such controlling and abusive relationships break down 😉

[SilverPlatinum]

FourNinesFine. Your wife is searching for you............

[dicker]

On 23/04/2023 at 20:40, FourNinesFine said:

There are lots of the "Don't tell my wife" types of tropes that tend to spring up around any hobby / passtime that involves spending money.

I feel they can 'tarnish' the reputation of stacking / collecting / investing as an activity - making it out as something that can't be enjoyed and explored together; but it also cheapens the relationships themselves. It's the same as the welcome mats and door signs designed for Amazon and UPS deliveries... "Hide packages from husband."  Surely, we can do better?

 

Anyway, in completely unrelated news, I had my first experience of an online Precious Metals auction today. For God's sake, don't tell the wife!!

😂

I have a good friend who is a very keen fisherman (carp I believe).  He buys seriously expensive kit - and lots of it.  Tents, rods all sorts of kit.

He hides it from his wife by having new purchases delivered to a friends house and rents a pretty large storage unit where it is all beautifully arranged.  Hanging on walls, from the ceiling etc.

He keeps a single rod and box at home which is old and he never uses and takes it with him when he goes.  His wife is a dragon of the “old school”, so can understand why!

 

[FourNinesFine]

I have a long-suffering uncle. Seeing him and my aunt when I was a kid was a good schooling in what was important in a relationship... and what to avoid.

"Dragon of the old school" indeed.

[SiCole]

I've always been of the mindset if i need to lie to my other half about money or buying things either what i am doing is a bit wrong or i got the wrong one.

Number of people who buy from me asking to either hide whats in orders or i can't as she'll kill me - I have guys in their 40's and 50's saying that over a couple of hundred quid. If you can't afford it its nothing to be ashamed of but dont if you can don't hide it.

[GoldDiggerDave]

You guys have it all wrong  get her to buy you the goodies!  

[FourNinesFine]

[PhilOdgny]

5 hours ago, dicker said:

I have a good friend who is a very keen fisherman (carp I believe).  He buys seriously expensive kit - and lots of it.  Tents, rods all sorts of kit.

He hides it from his wife by having new purchases delivered to a friends house and rents a pretty large storage unit where it is all beautifully arranged.  Hanging on walls, from the ceiling etc.

He keeps a single rod and box at home which is old and he never uses and takes it with him when he goes.  His wife is a dragon of the “old school”, so can understand why!

 

This is an abusive relationship. Call it what it is.

[PhilOdgny]

4 hours ago, FourNinesFine said:

I have a long-suffering uncle. Seeing him and my aunt when I was a kid was a good schooling in what was important in a relationship... and what to avoid.

"Dragon of the old school" indeed.

Glad you got the chance early to avoid this type of abusive relationship.  I wish I had known earlier.

[PhilOdgny]

3 hours ago, GoldDiggerDave said:

You guys have it all wrong  get her to buy you the goodies!  

That only ever happened to me once.  I got a nice watch but ... it was bought with the money I gave her because she didn't work 🤦‍♂️